OMG UPDATE: Hey I just met you and this is crazy, but write a missed connection and submit it maybe?

Updated on Wednesday, August 7, 2013

#4706

MISSED CONNECTION: We met and had feelings for each other but it wasn't the right time for both of us to be committed. So we started going out, sleeping together and now it's been months. And I never wanted it to happen but I find myself thinking about you everyday, and I don't know what to do. You aren't ready to be in a relationship and I don't want to lose you in my life if I tell you I want more. I hope we stay friends and that one day we don't become a missed connection.

14 comments

  1. I want to say i know who you are but this could be a lot of people on campus at any given point in time.

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  2. Lol, I think this applies to Somone I know as well. It's a rather generic friends with benefits that develop feelings scenario.

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  3. This can definitely apply to so many ppl! But I think I know who it applies to aswell, my advice...tell him/her how you feel...you never know what will happen!

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  4. OP can you provide a few more specific? How did you meet? Why can't they be in a relationship?

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  5. OP Here: he was just in a relationship and wants to not be committed for a change.

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  6. Stand up for yourself and either get what you want or get out.

    The short-term temporary misery is worth the long term pain.

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  7. I wasn't ready for a relationship when I met my current significant other. When a person tells you they aren't ready for a relationship, they mean they aren't ready for a relationship with you.

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  8. ^Hopefully people realize that you're full of utter bullshit. Some people just don't want to be in a relationship period. Just because you fail at relationships doesn't mean you can sabotage other peoples.

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  9. @8. Right, because clearly the OP is super happy with the way things are going now. Telling them to stand up for him/herself so they won't be miserable is definitely sabotage. Honestly how can you even think that? You are probably the person banging the OP thinking, "Man I got a great gig going, don't screw this up for me!"

    I will accept that a very tiny proportion of the population truly doesn't want to be in a relationship, but for the rest, I think they just haven't met the right person and it's just an excuse. I legitimately had zero desire to be in a relationship until I met my current significant other.

    And my relationship is excellent thank you very much.

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  10. This made my heart melt..this may sound lame but fight for her and make sure she knows. I was sleeping with a guy and he wanted more but I wasn't ready and now that I fell for him and I'm ready for something more, I feel like shit for letting him go. He's with someone now :(

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  11. Some people are genuinely not ready to be a relationship, and if you just got out of a long term relationship it totally makes sense to not want to be committed to someone else right away. OP, I hope that everything works out for you two! Staying in someones life as a friend and supporting them when you know they aren't ready to be in a relationship is really the way to show them you care about them.

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  12. Sorry OP, but 7 and 9 are completely right. You should probably move on - I know it seems like at this point in time that this person's super important, but you will get over him/her in time.

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  13. You need to do what you feel is right for you OP. I wouldn't listen to 7/9 because they don't sound like they really know what they are talking about. Listening to someone tell you about their own limited experiences, as in how they felt and how they didn't know what they wanted, is not a very intelligent plan. It seems that 7/9 lack life skills and will you really take advice from someone who has had one relationships but still haven't figured out what they want in life. Sure my first time having sex was awesome, but the next time was better, and so on. If this person is not ready for a relationship you can decide to wait if they mean that much to you or seek another person. If you choose to wait then make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and that the other person is aware of the fact.

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  14. "Staying in someones life as a friend and supporting them when you know they aren't ready to be in a relationship is really the way to show them you care about them."

    Right, because being absolutely miserable so your friend can get laid is showing you care.

    The only actual solution here is to tell the person your true feelings and see what happens. Waiting it out is not a solution. You'll continually be miserable.

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