MISSED CONNECTION: Why is it that I know which guys to hit on but not which girls? Is there something I am missing? They seem to flirt back but then I find out they arent attracted to girls.
-confused girl
You're a bi girl I think (reading comprehension is hard), so it's statistically likely that most people you hit on are straight, giving you a better chance to find a straight guy, and less of a chance to find a not-straight girl.
I've never had luck meeting gay girls at glow. I don't go that frequently but I've found that I'm usually not interested in the apparent regulars at the meetings and it also seems like more gay men hang out in the glow club room overall. That said, the Trans week stuff may draw in new faces, so maybe give that a shot?
Correct me if I'm wrong, I actually think there are very few gay females on campus.
I have met SO many gay guys but I have yet to meet or befriend a lesbian. I only know of one girl that was in my classes and I saw this cute couple in the SLC once and this is my fifth year at Waterloo ..
My assumption for this is that women are less likely to come out because having a gay best friend is the new trendy thing.
Have a lesbian best friend isn't. there's a lot of stigma around lesbians which makes it harder for them to come out.
also, how can you spot a gay person? By the way they dress or act? That doesn't label them gay. In the same way, you can't just look at a girl and assume they're straight/bi/lesbian/whatever. You can't know someone's orientation just by looking at them.
Furthermore, many choose not to show affection to their partners in public, whether straight, gay, or lesbian. So you really can't base your statement on the PDA you see on campus. So yes I think this is an overgeneralization.
Interestingly, I've come to know a number of bi girls, much more than I had expected, and it seems they generally complain about this. Usually it's also that they don't know how to hit on girls in the first place, since society doesn't really provide them with any guidelines on the matter (although really, society's guidelines only go so far). I'd like to help somehow, but as a shy straight male, I fear I have little to provide in the matter :/ But feel free to respond if you would like to discuss it.
You're a bi girl I think (reading comprehension is hard), so it's statistically likely that most people you hit on are straight, giving you a better chance to find a straight guy, and less of a chance to find a not-straight girl.
ReplyDeleteIt's because there are straight people than gay people.
ReplyDelete*are more
DeleteAlso a lot people flirt back by habit, even if they're not interested. Good luck though!
ReplyDeleteI wish more females would hit on me, sometimes I feel like because I didnt join GLOW I know very few gay people !
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Op here I have never been to a glow meeting either. I feel like I should though just to meet other girls :P
DeleteI've never had luck meeting gay girls at glow. I don't go that frequently but I've found that I'm usually not interested in the apparent regulars at the meetings and it also seems like more gay men hang out in the glow club room overall. That said, the Trans week stuff may draw in new faces, so maybe give that a shot?
DeleteHit on me please ):
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Correct me if I'm wrong, I actually think there are very few gay females on campus.
ReplyDeleteI have met SO many gay guys but I have yet to meet or befriend a lesbian. I only know of one girl that was in my classes and I saw this cute couple in the SLC once and this is my fifth year at Waterloo ..
My assumption for this is that women are less likely to come out because having a gay best friend is the new trendy thing.
DeleteHave a lesbian best friend isn't. there's a lot of stigma around lesbians which makes it harder for them to come out.
also, how can you spot a gay person? By the way they dress or act? That doesn't label them gay. In the same way, you can't just look at a girl and assume they're straight/bi/lesbian/whatever. You can't know someone's orientation just by looking at them.
Furthermore, many choose not to show affection to their partners in public, whether straight, gay, or lesbian. So you really can't base your statement on the PDA you see on campus.
So yes I think this is an overgeneralization.
^ +1
DeleteUW MC, cesspool of all the cringe worthy fags and dykes on campus
ReplyDeleteugh...when will people like you die out.
DeleteWell, if you ever feel like hitting on my girlfriend, I'm sure she would reciprocate - and I wouldn't mind one bit.
ReplyDeleteKeep trying! At least you're trying! And Glow is overrated, you don't need it to find a girl.
ReplyDeleteInterestingly, I've come to know a number of bi girls, much more than I had expected, and it seems they generally complain about this.
ReplyDeleteUsually it's also that they don't know how to hit on girls in the first place, since society doesn't really provide them with any guidelines on the matter (although really, society's guidelines only go so far).
I'd like to help somehow, but as a shy straight male, I fear I have little to provide in the matter :/
But feel free to respond if you would like to discuss it.
Just keep trying or try Plenty of Fish that is how a lot of girls meet each other; it worked for me in the past.
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