Updated on Friday, November 29, 2013
MISSED CONNECTION: To any guy at CIF who thinks they have a right to touch me: BACK THE FUCK OFF. The gym is for working out, and the main reason that a lot of girls avoid public gyms is because of guys like you that try to use the gym to pick up chicks. If my form is off and it bothers you that fucking much then you either ignore it or come up to me and say it nicely. YOU DO NOT JUST FUCKING GET BEHIND A GIRL AND START TOUCHING HER TO "ADJUST HER FORM". YOU ARE NOT A TRAINER. I AM NOT PAYING YOU. Ugh. Can't wait until I can afford better equipment at home.
I squirmed just reading this, ugh.
ReplyDeleteThis actually fucking happens? Gross.
ReplyDeleteWhooooo thinks that's okay??? What the fuck.
ReplyDeleteAnd stories like this are why I'm apprehensive about going to the school's gym...
ReplyDeleteExpose this guy. Give us details so we can find him/kick him out of the gym whenever we see him
ReplyDeleteThis. That's not just uncool, it's assault.
DeleteSome guys make it so uncomfortable to go to the gym, if its not something like this than it's constant leering. ew please stop
ReplyDeleteI don't know if assault is the correct term, harassment, but yes this is inappropriate. I don't know that he needs to be kicked out, but certainly should be warned that if this ever happens again.. that he will be kicked out.
ReplyDeleteLeaving a description is a terrific idea OP! make sure it doesn't happen to others.
I know it may seem unlikely, but maybe, just maybe they were trying to be helpful? (doubts as I am a guy and find this to be wrong), but I like to have a small shred of belief in the decency of human kind.
I know Wikipedia isn't a dictionary, but...
Delete"At common law, an assault is an intentional act by one person that creates an apprehension in another of an imminent harmful or offensive contact."
I think assault fits.
Unwanted contact is assault, it doesn't matter if it causes harm.
DeleteThat is messed up OP. Hopefully you said something to him at the time.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry this happens to you OP. I go to CIF often and I don't see any physical touching unless it's with girls and guys that know each other. It sucks it makes you not feel like going to the gym anymore. I feel like the community would be more helpful though than letting stuff like this slide. I can only assume it's specific people that are targeting girls(or actually trying to help, haha...).
ReplyDeleteYikes...
ReplyDeleteThat is really sad that people don't understand personal parameters. What a ***hole.
ReplyDeletescumbag
ReplyDeletei like pizza
ReplyDeletethis is like the start of a porn video but the outcome is opposite
ReplyDeleteThat is seriously fucked up. Making me upset thinking about it.
ReplyDeleteShould have just turned around and slapped him. That would be a hilarious moment for everyone there...except for him.
ReplyDeleteyo.......ewwwww.
ReplyDeleteAs an LS student watching people trying to talk about assault and using wiki I'm as uncomfortable as OP.
ReplyDeleteCommon law is not criminal, so unless she's going to sue in civil and use the tort of assault and seek remedies which is a huge time/financial commitment if she seeks counsel then it's not happening.
Criminally it's not assault, harassment at best.
Ah, vindication! thank you sir or madam! sincerely #7.
DeleteAs an LS student watching people trying to talk about assault and using wiki I'm as uncomfortable as OP.
ReplyDeleteCommon law is not criminal, so unless she's going to sue in civil and use the tort of assault and seek remedies which is a huge time/financial commitment if she seeks counsel then it's not happening.
Criminally it's not assault, harassment at best.
You sound like you'd be fun at parties.
DeleteI'd be so livid if some moron tried to touch me at the gym. I'd probably try to publicly embarrass him right there so he never does it again.
ReplyDeleteAs a guy this happened to me to a lesser extent. Somebody offered an uninvited straddle-spot while I was squatting (http://www.exrx.net/Images/WeightTraining/SquatSpot.jpg) and then proceeded to compliment my lifting only to begin extolling the virtues of Stronglifts 5x5 and tell me how much better it would be if I was doing 5 sets of 5 on fucking everything every day.
ReplyDeleteSo I read OP's story and the replies here and think how much I would have liked to just grunt/snarl angrily at him during my set and then after racking the bar tell him not to ever do that again but to be honest in the moment I was so utterly shocked/taken aback that I couldn't think of anything to say. I know it's cliche but seriously...the fucking nerve of some people!
Just an observation based off many OMGUW: MC's and OMG's. There are plenty of girls checking out guys at the gym also. And guess what, it makes some guys feel less comfortable in the gym, especially being a new gym goer, I am a little uncomfortable as is, without having to think girls or guys may be watching, judging and then posting comment on OMGUW. Lets not make this turn into a giant men are scum fest even though this particular guy seems like a doucher.
ReplyDeleteMy long held belief is that people go to PAC to work out. People go to CIF to be noticed.
ReplyDeleteGo to PAC. The guys who work out there will give advice if you ask, but they are too busy working out to hit on you.
Not true. Ive had number of guys checking me out and some even coming up and striking convos and messing up my program and workout duration.
DeleteGets touched inappropriately. Then screams rape in misconnections? If you had a problem with it, why didn't you tell him? You have mouth, as creepy and wrong as that is, you're screaming for attention Hun.
ReplyDeleteNo, she's not. If she was screaming for attention she would have made a big fuss in person. Maybe she didn't want to make a big scene. Maybe she was flustered because it was unexpected. Maybe she's shy.
DeleteAlso, never ever use the term hun. You're a dick.
Ok, I wont use the word "hun" Missy.
DeleteDon't get me wrong, If she made a huge dramatic scene in person, she would also have been screaming for attention which is as equal as immature as this post is. But I'm going to assume she did not tell him politely to stop and/or did not stand up for herself. And assuming if she did not want to make a huge public scene, the correct thing to do is tell an authority figure (person working: trainer, front desk staff, etc...) that you got sexually harassed at the gym. And even If she didn't want to make it a big issue, she would have let it slide. Thats what mature people do.
My point being: How is this post relevant to a misconnection? Its not. Its got nothing related to an actually misconnection that actually happened. The person that needs to read this post is the person who sexually harassed her. She had the chance to tell him. She's targeting the wrong group of people here. The majority (if not all) of people here aren't the ones that sexually harassed her or people at the gym. So why is she so tempted to advise us so immaturely? On a completely random blog? i mean, does she really want to meet him again? is this an actually misconnection? Of course not. She is screaming for attention. Tough love, but its the truth.
Don't get me wrong, if thats what he did, thats completely inappropriate, but the way she conduct herself after shows the immaturity of how she handled the situation.
Yours truly,
Hun
No where does it indicate that 24 a is a girl. Youre a fucking retard.
Delete24c. : It fair to assume that you're offended. its also safe to assume that you also posted 24a. I wouldn't be surprised if you're also the writer of this post. All three post seems to be from a person who is emotionally weak; a person who can't write a response without making it personal. Someone who can't take criticism well.
DeleteI wish you all the best, and may god have mercy on your soul.
I like how 24's response to not using "hun" was to use "missy".
Delete24, It's not someone's obligation to say "don't do that," it's everyone's obligation to ask for permission before they touch someone. OP is bringing attention to a real problem, that men feel they have a right to women's bodies. If you can't see how this is a problem, please visit the Waterloo Women's Centre and have someone teach you about it. If you can't change your mindset with regards to harassment and assault, then you need to go back to 1963.
DeleteTo more of an extreme extent of an example: victims who get raped either tell the authority or don't depending on how traumatized they are. If they don't tell the the authority, they don't go tweet about it. If they do, you can definitely question if they got raped or even the legitimacy of their story.
DeleteJust because someone is victimized does not and should not blur out their actions. No one is claiming what that guy did (if he even did it) was not creepy and wrong. We can all agree it is. But i do question the legitimacy of this story just solely based of human behaviour. It defies common sense and logic.
And don't pull the women's rights card out. Its cheap. Its foolish. And its weak. No one is against women's rights on this post.
"To any guy at CIF who thinks they have a right to touch me"
ReplyDeleteWho's me? so i can BACK THE FUCK OFF!