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Updated on Wednesday, February 26, 2014

#5712

MISSED CONNECTION: To the guy i was friends with:
We started hanging out alone and had all these amazing conversations, and what i thought was a great emotional connection. You kept being all touchy feely, and cuddly. Then we started making out, and eventually had sex.
When i finally asked you if you were interested in a relationship, you said 'no, sorry if i gave you the wrong impression.'
All i have to say is what the hell? who in their right mind wouldn't have gotten the wrong impression from that?
I thought you were a good guy, and we were friends. why couldn't you have just been open and upfront with me? you knew i wasn't looking for a fuck buddy. now its awkward every time i see you, and you never really gave me any explanation.

i wish things could go back to the way they were before. i miss having you as a real friend.

17 comments

  1. some guys are jerks :(

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  2. the answer is that you were never really friends, and all that "romantic" shit he did, he knew was necessary to get you to fuck him

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  3. He's an asshole...and a whole lot like my on/off boyfriend. I hope something very painful happens to him.

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  4. tell him this not us

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  5. Did you actually tell him you weren't looking for a fuck buddy? If nothing was discussed before you had sex then I think its fair game. It doesn't sound like he lied about anything and there are SO many reasons to have sex. Expecting him to scry your own reason. If you were looking for a relationship only I think you should have told him first.

    Also, is his response really better than saying he does want the relationship knowing all along he's only in it for the short-term and the sex?

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  6. Definitely sounds like he led you on whether he knew he was doing it or not. It's not highschool where you flirt with someone and hang out and then they officially ask you out and then you eventually have sex. Most couples I know started off in your situation - acting the same way because they're interested in each other yet still playing it cool without having a huge "what do you want out of this" talk before anything happened. It makes things too formal and unnatural, you don't want to come on too strong for fear of scaring the other away. So either this guy led you on to get laid or perhaps he didn't feel a connection after you took that next step. Either way, if you're upset you should ask him about it straight up, you've got nothing to lose.

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    1. 'This isn't high school where you communicate your intentions and take the logical progression to a physical relationship. This is university where we play it cool and have sex without establishing intent then blame the other person for misunderstanding and cause drama.'

      I think you have everything ass-backwards.

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    2. +1 7a

      Btw OP, the explanation is probably that he wants to fuck other easy girls like you. "Emotional connection" lol. Dude's probably run the same routine a dozen times. You wanted sex so you didn't broach commitment beforehand, and now you're suddenly a victim when (surprise!) he doesn't commit. Really tired of girls rationalizing their own decisions with victimization...

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  7. And this is why you don't go past first base until after he asks you to be his girlfriend. Unless you want to be fwb. Sorry you had to figure that out the hard way OP.

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  8. Tell him you had herpes

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  9. BE MY FRIEND. i need a friend. just got snaked by two close friends.;'(((((((((

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    1. Not OP but I know how you feel :(

      I need friends too

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  10. Wow that guy is a dick.

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