OMG UPDATE: Hey I just met you and this is crazy, but write a missed connection and submit it maybe?

Updated on Friday, April 18, 2014

#5892

MISSED CONNECTION: To the guy who never gave me a chance to be more than a summer fling,

Thank you, because of you I've learned to value myself more. I was devastated when you didn't want to continue what we had over that summer. I spiralled downhill, and turned into the same person that hurt me by hurting others. Thankfully, I unexpectedly got swept off my feet by someone. I'm happy in my relationship now. I still think about you and the time we shared, but more of in a way of looking back to how stupid and naive i was. I'm graduating so I won't be seeing you around campus. Good luck with school and everything.

12 comments

  1. OP, your value as a person is not defined by your relationships. Single or not single, you are enough.

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  2. Maybe look at it the other way around? Sure he dumped you, but summer flings are sometimes meant to be just summer flings!

    Maybe you can brag about it to your friends, & think about all his bad habits & personality that made him unsuitable for dating ;)

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  3. hahaha OP how does it feel settling for second best?

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    1. I wouldn't say the guy i'm dating now is second best, who's to say the guy before was the best?

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    2. The subtext of your MC did. He might have been a dick to you, but the fact you care enough to make this post in the MC section rather than the OMG section says a lot.

      If you've truly moved on, you'd be completely indifferent.
      Instead, you admit to a high traffic UW site (one that he likely frequents) that you still occasionally reminiscence about your shared summer affair. Of course, you have to justify these thoughts as part of your naive and stupid past, for both your sanity and to prevent massive backlash replies.

      Look, if you want to bid him a final farewell, it really should be done in person or via text if you feel uncomfortable. When written as a MC preceded by an exposition of his oppressive influence on your life and how much "stronger" you have since become, it's insincere.

      But what do I know?


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    3. we did bid final farewells. but it seems to me that you know me better than myself...

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    4. not #3 here, but OP, we rarely know ourselves as well as we think we do lol

      why don't you take this as a chance to learn something rather than get all defensive? nobody's throwing any "backlash" at you - you're the one getting all riled up just because you can't take some outside perspective

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  4. You're to say by making this MC. When you see the previous guy all wifed up, you'll be jealous regardless of how good you have it with #2

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  5. OP here, thanks for the amount of "blacklash". just thought i'd finally let this all go since i'm graduating and wanted to put this all to the past. i really fell in love with him deeply, and when it all ended i spiralled downhill and struggled with an eating disorder. Maybe, i've chosen the wrong wording for what I intended to write or perhaps others are reading it a little too deeply.

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  6. If you were over it, you wouldn't have written this post.

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  7. yeah not over it. lmfaoo

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  8. Poor 2nd guy. I hope he reads this and realizes what he has gotten him self into so he can go and find someone who thinks he is number 1 and not 2.

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