OMG UPDATE: Hey I just met you and this is crazy, but write a missed connection and submit it maybe?

Updated on Tuesday, April 29, 2014

#5919

MISSED CONNECTION: To the guy I was flirting with all term:

Your friends thought I was out of your league, because I wasn't 'hot' enough for them. I thought you were into me, because you kept checking me out, & would steal any opportunity to talk to me.

If only you had asked me out, you would find out how much more I had to offer. People say that I'm funny, courageous, compassionate & that I have a good heart. Not to mention I'm intelligent & can hold amazing conversations.

I'm tired of strangers judging me based solely on my looks. We had so much chemistry, it saddens me to think that you didn't date me because of this. You won't be seeing me around anymore, mostly because my heart now aches whenever I see you.

From
The girl who could have been

39 comments

  1. Just embrace the fact that you're ugly den ;)

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  2. Everything is about looks, welcome to reality.

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  3. shit sucks, but i love your confidence

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  4. Why didn't you ask him...

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    1. OP here. I made it very clear that I was interested in him. And I overheard his friends discussing me a couple of times, saying that he likes me.

      If he wanted to ask me out, he would've.

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    2. OP, what faculty are you?

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    3. "I made it very clear by doing everything but asking him out."
      10/10, solid logic OP.

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  5. Oh boo hoo we had so much chemistry but you didn't ask me out. Sorry Op but 4 is right

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  6. 1) "Your friends thought I was out of your league, because I wasn't 'hot' enough for them."
    - Way to prove your intelligence

    2) You're "courageous"? People need to stop using this word in this context because it just looks like you're trying to use another big adjective to make yourself look smart. In what way are you supposedly courageous? Did you win a battle? It's silly.

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    1. how do you know OP isn't eowyn!?

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  7. lol op... I'm guessing you're a chick?

    You must have an overly inflated ego. Men learn early that if you are ugly you are screwed. Luckily you are a chick, so u can still get a good lucking guy even though ur ugly.

    Thank god you aren't an ugly guy, or you would get arrested for stalking if u even asked a chick out.

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    1. There is no guessing, OP said she was a girl. Also your entire comment seems absurd to me. Are you saying you know a guy who has been arrested for asking a girl out? What's your point?

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    2. This doesn't fit society's expectations at all. You are very confused. Typically, we tend to believe that it's _men_ who can still get laid if they're ugly, not _women_. Leastways, that's what we've been told on Reddit all this time. I can't even keep up with this MRA shit anymore.

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  8. It angers me that the last part of 7 rings so true. Not saying all unattractive guys come off as creepy, but I've seen attractive guys get off with plenty of creepy shit. I think I've gotten by doing really creepy shit that turned into adorable because the individual at hand found me attractive. Such double standards.

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    1. The worst part about being an unattractive man is that the world is activly hostile towards u. Both men AND women.

      At least if you are an ugly women, such as OP, people aren't hostile towards u and men will still try and chop u.

      Just ask any man who has gone from being obese to fit. It is a whole new world.

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    2. You've got to be shitting me, 8b. People are INCREDIBLY hostile if you're an unattractive woman. Ugly dudes get off way easier.

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  9. OP, I think your confidence is amazing. However, you say it's his fault for not asking you out. Then why not ask him out?! Even though we think we're being obvious with all of our cues when we like a guy, many guys literally need you to spell it out for them. As for looks, I used to think a guy should just like me 'as I am' with no makeup and wear what I want. But when I see a guy who takes some time into his appearance its sexy. It doesn't make you vain if you put in a reasonable amount of time into your appearance, minimal effort into hair, clothes and makeup can go a long way.

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  10. OP again.

    To everyone that says I'm probably ugly, how do you know if you haven't seen me? The point is not that I was not attractive to him, I was.

    The point is that despite being attracted to me, he did not ask me out because I wasn't as hot as the girls he normally dates I guess (& also peer pressure because friends)

    And no, I am not gonna ask him out if I already know what the answer is. He's social, I was outrageously flirting & the meaning was obvious.

    I'm not here to start a war. The message I was trying to get across is that the guy lost out on an opportunity because he valued looks over everything else, & that maybe we could all do with being less superficial.

    If you disagree, fine by me.

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    1. Hi OP,

      I hate to break it to you, but you are very ugly most likely. For a guy to reject u, that takes a lot.

      Being a female u are probably sheltered to the truth of unattractiveness some what. I suggest u stick to wearing a crap load of make up and be thankful u are a chick and not a dude. Or you wouldn't have even that.

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    2. LOL. 10a is so bitter but ignorant.

      "Being a female u are probably sheltered to the truth of unattractiveness"
      Are you kidding me?

      Ha. Hahaha.

      Females, in general, are the most judged and most negatively affected by society's obsession with image. Not men.

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    3. 10b, I'm guessing you are a women?

      If so, it would be difficult for you to understand.

      When you are accused of being a pedophile when you go to pick up your little cousin from HS, or when your land lord kicks you out because you are "stalking" the beautiful girl next door (you dared to say hello to her yesterday, which is stalking).

      Hostility towards ugly men is real.

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    4. 10c, you are seriously mental. I mean, crazy mental to the nth degree.

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    5. Woaaah did not read 10c till now. Yikes!

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  11. 10b you are wrong. End of story.

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    1. …slow clap for your amazing comeback 11.

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  12. If I like a girl personality-wise but I don't find her physically attractive, I'd would definitely befriend her but I wouldn't engage romantically. I don't think this is a double standard. It may be shallow but its really hard to be romantic with a girl if I don't find her physically attractive.

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  13. OP you can't just wait for people to come to you. If you like them make the first step and ask them out. It sounds like you are incredibly insecure and scared to take risks with no real consequence. You mention that he probablu likes you back then just go for it and ask him out.

    First, this is UW so most men here, including me, are really bad at reading social clues. So although you think you are being obvious he is probably not getting it.

    The only one here that missed out on something is you, OP. The only way to not miss a chance is to actively go out and get it not just slightly hint and hope it comes to you.

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  14. Hey OP, from one average-looking chick to another, ask the guy out! The worst he is going to say is no, and if he already knows you're into him as you've claimed, it's not like it would change anything.

    Ignore the haters. But also stop with the gender roles thing. It's silly and outdated. Just ask him out.

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  15. @ OP

    You sound way too insecure and desperate. Why justify yourself if you don't care what he thinks? As far as looks are concerned, unless you're really unattractive, it's probably not the main reason he doesn't like you.

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  16. WOW all the people commenting here are idiots. You're judging a girl's looks AND personality based on what? Her post in OMGUW? Are you kidding me right now?

    You're inconsiderate and insensitive people who are only looking to put people down. Yes, OP's post had some insecure parts and some confident parts, and some assumptions. That's life, stop giving her so much shit for it.

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    1. The fuck did she post then if she doesn't want people to comment? I'm not gonna PC-up my response just so some bimbo stops feeling sorry for herself.

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