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Updated on Wednesday, August 6, 2014

#6117

MISSED CONNECTION: While walking around the campus, everybody is so wrapped up in their own little bubble that I can rarely build a connection. How do you guys socialize around campus ( I am in alot of clubs, I volunteer around and stuff. I m talking about generally interacting with a fellow student). Though I did meet several friendly students around, most of them move around like zombies and barely acknowledge a smile or a greeting. Why,uwaterloo, why?

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  1. well, it's hard because for a term or 2 i tried to be really friendly and people didn't reciprocate so i just gave up

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    1. This. Still trying, in 4A now. Hasn't really worked, so sometimes, the public happy me slips away and the darker aspects of life come to the surface of the mind... so yeah...

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    2. 1.a, I feel you, bro. :')
      *imagine dragons Demons playing in the background *

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  2. Well moving around like zombies could be due to tiredness. The rest is, I guess, depends on the person?

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  3. Lmao, someone other than me notices too..
    Smiling at people comes natural to me, but after coming to loo i stopped... because eveytime i smile at people who stare at me, they dont respond...instead they keep staring at me until i look away.. instead i feel creeped out..

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    1. I'm personally terrible at faces so if someone smiles at me I get lost in a whirlpool of "oh shit do I know them??" "why am I a bad person??" "maybe they're the second-cousin of my friend's uncle's step-daughter's boyfriend??" "were they at that event yesterday??" *cue awkward stare but I have Chronic Bitch Face so everyone thinks I'm full of hatred*

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  4. If you aren't clean or don't look friendly there is no point in trying.

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  5. Could it be that all the zombies were once good smiling people and were in a same situation as us and stopped smiling? Gasp. #bringbackoursmiles.

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  6. Honestly, sometimes I just don't feel like smiling. Sometimes smiling leads to conversation, and I talk too much as it is. Unless I'm willing to spend time in a conversation I'd rather avoid faces.

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  7. Drinking at a bar. I always end up meeting people.

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  8. It really isn't rocket science. My tactic: be yourself. Try going up to someone that you want to talk to, be genuine and nice, and then talk to them. If they aren't interested in talking, it will be pretty obvious. It's not even a tactic, a method, a gambit, or anything... it's called being normal. It gets positive responses. Unless being yourself is some horrid shitbag... then you might want to act as somebody else.

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    1. You have some kind of bias against horrid shitbags?

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  9. Because stranger danger. Actually, I don't want to talk to you if I'm walking around. I'm going somewhere, thinking about something, doing my own thing. Sorry that this doesn't fulfill your need.

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    1. I don't see why you're unable to smile at someone if eye contact occurs while you're "doing your own thing."

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    2. Wow people, 10 can smile if he/she feels like it. Sorry if that doesn't work out for you.

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    3. you seem insane 10

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    4. Isnt not smiling back at a person who just greeted/smiled at you considered rude? Oh no wait, I go to uwaterloo its perfectly normal to avoid eye contact and run away when a friendly student smiles at you.

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    5. I'm sorry but I think all of you are being a bit non-understanding towards 10 here.

      Believe it or not, but some people are too much in their head most of the time. Like 6 mentioned, they might be thinking about something or doing their own thing. In situations like those, even though it might seem like they noticed you smiling at them (because they might be staring at your direction), but they really wouldn't have. They can't be really blamed for that, can they?

      It's just how they are. Some of us are very alert to everything that's going on around us, but some of us are in our head most of the time and are completely oblivious to what might seem 'completely obvious'.

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  10. Could be actual zombies. Were they wearing headbands?

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  11. It's also exam season. They're probably just distracted. I know I've zombies out a few times when I walk. But it would make my day to be smiled at/said good morning to! Keep it up OP :)

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  12. Were they the fast kind of zombies? Were they chasing people?

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  13. Are we still zombies if it's the exams devouring our brains?

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  14. Jerk off in the middle of campus. Then you'll see some of those bubbles burst. Heck you may even start the first ever campus wide circle jerk..

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  15. Fuck you OP. That's why...

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  16. You got that right, OP. Because we're in our little bubble. It does not signify pride or arrogance, it's about.. personal choice and comfort. And perhaps being ourselves.

    You can't expect people to do what you want, and you'll find that everywhere - no matter where you go. It's just too unfortunate that *most* people here are not how you want them to be.

    Oh and also keep in mind that a person might not be overall stuck-up or too full of themselves if they aren't "friendly" to you in the beginning. They might just require a bit of time to open up and get talking - they might not be too good at it when asked at random, i.e., when you catch them off guard.

    TL;DR: People are different, you can't expect everyone to be a people-person and respond to you at random.

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  17. I'm from Toronto, I don't like socializing with strangers when I have some place to go or if I'm at a bus stop. At a bus stop shit gets awkward if it turns out the person is annoying or if the person is hitting on me. Don't get me wrong, I don't shoot people down, I am friendly if approached but I do the zombie-eyes thing on purpose because I'd really rather not be. If I am just chilling somewhere it's a different story and I love meeting friends-of-friends, but between classes when I have like 10min, or when I'm itching to go home, it's not a good time.

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