OMG UPDATE: Hey I just met you and this is crazy, but write a missed connection and submit it maybe?

Updated on Friday, January 23, 2015

#6765

MISSED CONNECTION: I had somewhat of a missed connection with you about 3 years ago. Back then you asked me out, but I hadn't talked to you that often and didn't know you well enough to be comfortable with starting a relationship, so I turned you down and asked that we be friends.

So for these past couple years, we hung out as friends, and I discovered how much I like your personality and like who you are. And it's only been until recently that I've become aware of the fact that I think I've developed romantic feelings for you.
Currently I'm afraid to tell you this. There are a couple of reasons why I can't tell you, but the main reasons are that it's been so long, you likely don't feel the same way about me anymore, and I don't want to do anything to jeopardize the friendship that we've built up, and that I greatly treasure. I just want to let you know that I hope who you find happiness, and that I think you're something really special. Even if you don't feel the same way about me anymore, I'm happy knowing that at one point, you did like me. :)

8 comments

  1. Granted, I am PMS-ing, but I will publicly admit I cried reading this. That last line just killed me. Good luck, OP.

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  2. If hes your real friend, and he doesn't have romantic feelings for you, he'll still make the effort to stay as friends
    Just say it OP

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    1. +1. I'm an extremely honest girl, and asked a guy out a couple years back and we ended up really good friends. If he changed his mind, I'd want him to tell me so that we can talk about it instead of brooding.

      My motto is: if you were truly friends before, you'll still be friends after. You can't jeopardize true friendship by being honest about your feelings for one another.

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    2. 2 and 2a nailed it. I had a very close girlfriend confess romantic feelings for me and while it did make me feel a bit awkward not having them back, our friendship is still as strong as it was before. Don't sweat it.

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  3. I told my best guy friend that I liked him but we couldn't be in a relationship/he didn't feel the same way. It didn't get awkward and we're still best friends.

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  4. If I was that person (I am assuming a guy, but correct me if I am wrong) I would like you to ask me out. I might not have the same feelings as I did, but they will still be there in some form. I probably changed the feelings so that we could still be friends, but it doesn't take much to get them back.

    Just go about it saying that you remember him asking you out, and over the past couple years you have started to feel the same, and you want to know if that date is still on the table. If he says no, then it might be awkward for a bit, but you are friends after he asked you out, so what would change?

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    1. In other words: He's still hanging out with you and he definitely wouldn't mind adding sex to the relationship.

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  5. Tell him. Worst case scenario: he lets you suck his cock.

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